Elite Singles Review – Forbes Health
To get started, I’ve provided my email to register, which gets you into the “Basic Membership” category. Once I created an account, I took the personality profile assessment. I took some time with my answers and really thought about it, so I’d say the test probably took me around 45 minutes.
Once I completed the personality test, I felt that the “free” membership became practically worthless. I started getting messages I couldn’t read and matches I couldn’t see. To be honest, I don’t even know why they offer the “free” version except to “hook” people to the Premium subscription.
Basically, you have no idea if someone who contacted you might be your match unless you pay to find out. I opted for a 6 month plan which ended up being the cheapest monthly option. Be aware that memberships are paid in a lump sum and also taxed which added $9 to my bill.
Now back to the assessment of the personality profile. When you sign up for a Premium Membership, you get a more detailed PDF of your features and I thought that 23-page long report really got me right!
After that, I decided to fill out my “dating ad”, which is the logical next step after completing the quiz and paying to participate. Although the site creates a profile for you based on your responses to the assessment, Premium members are encouraged to spend time completing their personal bio. I also uploaded nine photos (you are allowed up to 24).
However, while completing this part, I continued to have things like my multi-hyphenated career tag and my smoking preference “Rejected” for some unknown reason after waiting for them to come out of phase “In Review”. Also, sometimes I would be on site, and it would freeze. So I have to log out and log back in. And I wasn’t the only one noticing these issues on both the website and the app. Other reviews on TrustPilot have complained about the same thing.
Now let’s get to the actual matches. Apparently the idea is that by handing out only 3-7 best matches per day, daters will be saved from endless scrolling and instead presented with highly compatible potential partners so they can focus on getting to know each other. of these supposedly like-minded people.
The problem with that is that every match I got was not someone I wanted to date. It felt like the preferences I had stated were pretty much ignored in the algorithm. I continued to be matched with people who lived in different states and were easily 15 outside of my preferred age range.
Even though I had set my options to the closest possible distance i.e. “matches within 50 miles” on EliteSingles, I don’t think I had a match offered in New York where I live. Most of them seemed to be hours away. Other commentators in different cities have similarly complained about the unreasonable distances to matches.
And while they say you have the option to match an additional 20 “Wildcard” matches per day (which play out like a typical app swipe – yes or no), that “Have you met?” part of the site was trying to get me to meet users in Arizona and California.
I also thought it was odd that a site that advertises “having the most educated singles” doesn’t need proof of education to sign up. Thus, this marketing appears to be based solely on member self-reporting.
Also, a lot of people don’t post pictures. If you’re matched with someone who doesn’t have a photo with their profile, EliteSingles says “no problem”, you can simply request one by clicking the “request photo” button. But it gets awkward if they send a photo and you’re not interested!
EliteSingles also alerts members when you’ve viewed their profile by sending them a direct email saying, “Kimberly appears to be interested in your profile.” And if you read a message someone sends you, EliteSingles immediately sends them a “read receipt”. There is no way to disable it.
EliteSingles advertises these features as “positives”, but personally I hated them. This is misleading because the only way to know if you might match someone is to look at their profile or read their message. Basically, this feature made me not want to look at anyone’s profile, worried that they would get an email if I was in it even if I wasn’t.
Although I had subscribed for six months, I decided to cancel my subscription after three days. I didn’t feel comfortable having my picture on the site, I wasn’t happy with any of the matches the algorithm was triggering (and I tried changing my settings a few times to see if that did a difference – it didn’t), and I felt like I was getting better matches on other dating sites.
Fortunately, I did so under the “midnight of the third working day” cancellation clause and my money was quickly and easily refunded. And with that, I disappeared from EliteSingles obviously still single – by choice.