Psychological parenting is a prescription to allow
Q: In your column, I often talk about “psychological parenting”. What does that mean exactly?
A: To answer the question, you need to unzip the word “parenthood” first. The definition is simply “what parents weren’t doing until the 1960s” when parents began to focus their children on family attention and worry about how they felt about almost everything. Ten years before the Turbulence, the children – for example, me – were simply brought up, and their synonyms were “raised” and “raised”. Since then, the children have become “parents”. Paradoxically, many of them are simply brought up by those who are raised, which proves the power of the media.
Prior to the 1960s, parents focused on preparing their children for functional citizenship, a period. They weren’t trying to make their kids happy, and they weren’t promoting high results. Ironically, while suicide is a reliable enough indicator, a child’s mental health in the days of single parenthood was ten times better than it is today. In high school, for example, no one met the therapist. A high school student who hasn’t seen the therapist today must have something wrong with him.
When I asked thousands of people my age about it, I can honestly say that before the 1960s my parents didn’t really care how their kids felt about something. .. None of the people I interviewed remember “What do you think, Johnny / Joanie”. Conversation with parents – never. Yet we were much, much, and much more emotionally resilient than today’s typical adolescent snowflakes.
In the late 1960s, American parents began to listen to mental health professionals (mainly psychologists) teaching them how to raise their children. Soon, simple parenting became parenting, and it all started to go to the proverbial dog. In most cases, the mother was obsessed with her child. Married mothers today see themselves as single mothers. Her husband, the father of a child surrogate, only reports white noise in the background.
For some strange reason, future historians will think endlessly, parents today want to be loved by their children. People my age laugh and laugh at that. Because we know that nothing insults adults more than the desire to be loved by children. Laughter and ridiculous aside, but it’s tragic and often ends tragically. For example, a child who does not respect adults does not know how to behave in this way.
The “psychological” of “psychological parenting” refers to the education of a child according to the psychological theory of humanity, none of which has survived the scrutiny of a cool researcher. In short, psychological parenting “makes children feel better about themselves”. It’s a prescription for making this possible, and it’s a prescription for disasters on both sides of the equation.
I am very depressed and sorry, but you asked.
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Parents today want their children to love them, says family psychologist John Rosemond.