Take responsibility for your emotions
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Your emotions create an energy that you take with you wherever you go. When you go on a date with your partner or go out with friends, arrive at work on Monday morning or take a quick trip to the supermarket, they follow you like a second shadow. The energy your emotions bring can have a powerful effect on those around you.
We’ve all seen someone yell at a cashier who is just doing their job, and you probably know at least one person who is so pessimistic all the time that they bring others down. But you may not know how your emotional energy affects those around you. You can never read other people’s minds, but that doesn’t mean you should be a solipsist, believing yours is the only mind there is.
Mindfulness — acceptance and awareness of your inner world and the world around you — can give you the presence of mind to take responsibility for the energy your emotions bring. Mindfulness will help you become aware of what you do and say, pay attention to how you react to others – and how they respond to you – and take responsibility for your thoughts, words and shares. To create an intentional life – a life in which your needs are met, you have power over what happens to you, and you feel fulfilled – you must live mindfully.
Mindfulness promotes patience, compassion, and wisdom, qualities you’ll need to promote your happiness and help you become a positive force in the lives of those around you.
When you interact with others in a reactive mode – governed entirely by the feelings you have in the moment and your limiting and irrational beliefs – you relinquish control over the words and actions of others and the chemicals of reaction or combat. leak released into your body. . When you’re in reactive mode, you make assumptions that may or may not be correct. You may erect verbal walls of defense or refuse to communicate altogether, even when you are not attacked. You act as if you have no power over the situation or your behavior. Whatever the outcome, someone else is to blame for pushing your buttons and making you feel and act the way you do. “You made me do it” becomes your automatic response.
Of course, the truth is just the opposite. You may not be able to control everything in your environment, and you certainly won’t be able to control what other people feel or think, even if you want to. But you have power over how you perceive situations, what information you seek out about them, and how you choose to respond with your behaviors and words. Whether your choice is intentional or not, you choose. Whether you blame or attack others is a choice. Mindfulness will help you make better choices. You can only begin to improve your situation when you accept responsibility for it.
For starters, you need to hold yourself accountable for harmful or destructive behaviors that may have been part of your past. Once you are aware of what you have done and how you are currently affecting the world around you, you can change. You can learn to step between your feelings and your response and learn to pause before committing. This pause will help you avoid negative behaviors that harm you as much as the people around you.
You deserve to be happy. You are worthy of the comfort, joy, and support that you can gain when you build honest, emotionally healthy relationships. You are the only thing stopping you from achieving this goal. But first, you’ll have to change destructive patterns that don’t support the relationships or the life you want. It will be a challenge, but it will be worth it. You can move forward to a better and happier life if you keep in mind the rewards that await you if you stop letting your emotions control you and repair the past damage that your emotional reactions have caused.
To accept responsibility for what you do, you must begin by examining yourself and your interactions. This review will help you be able to identify where the problems are. Think of it as a to-do list in relationships. The biggest challenge you face is making a lasting commitment to changing the way you think and behave. In exchange, you will take back the power that your shadow of emotions has over your life and begin to build the life you want.