Understanding the psychology of bullying
HARLINGEN, Texas (ValleyCentral) – All types of bullying are unacceptable and experts have said it’s important to know where it came from.
Dr Gerardo Mireles is a psychologist at Mireles psychological health services in McAllen and said it’s important to understand that bullying is not a random act of aggression.
Instead, it is a continued and deliberate use of power with repeated verbal or physical behavior that intends to cause harm.
Dr Mireles said some children seek negative attention because they feel like they are not getting it from their parents.
“Sometimes for kids it’s better to have negative attention than no attention at all,” he said.
According to Dr. Mireles, there are situations where children reflect aggression that occurs at home.
“Older siblings can also be a cause of the problem, so you know if they are being bullied at home, which can lead to bullying other kids at school and in society,” did he declare.
According to Dr. Mireles, in some cases the bully tends to be an adult role model. Although bullying is a learned behavior, Dr Mireles said it can be brought under control with the right support system.
He said it’s important for parents to take bullying seriously but not react aggressively towards a child.
Allowing a child to express themselves in a conversation can help understand why bullying happens. For most families, learning discipline techniques or participating in social skills programs can help them have a better relationship with their child.
However, Dr Mireles said there are other cases that may require more help.
“When it causes physical damage, when children fight regularly, when it causes property damage, even when we start to hurt pets or things like that, we should really contact a mental health professional,” did he declare.
Dr Mireles said help is available for those in need and encourages concerned parents to have an open conversation with a school counselor or psychologist.